While Valentine’s Day might be celebrated as the ‘most romantic day of the year’ , more importantly, it is a day of love.
Let’s face it – we all need love, and as a result, we tend to expect it from others , our family to friends to that someone special.
But what happens when we don’t get the kind of love that we expect Disappointment? Stress? Loneliness? And a lot of not-so-good feelings.
Can you imagine a world where there is a magical way to fuel our lives with all the love we need, without having to rely on others? Wouldn’t that be wonderful?
Guess what, I think I found the secret to creating this magic in reality. This is the source from where I get all the love I need and that makes me feel so good almost all the time.
And that secret source, my friend, lies within each one of us. Yes, I am talking about self-love.
Embracing ourselves with all our strengths as well as all our natural flaws is self-love.
I want you to know that the first person you should must learn to love, appreciate, and spend some quality time with, is none other than you, yourself!
It saddens me that it’s a concept many people aren’t comfortable with. I see a lot of people getting into a relationship only because they are in a dire need of external validation, and far from self-acceptance.
We all want others to accept us as how we are. So why can’t we do the same for ourselves?
I must confess that it was only after reducing the background noise and listening to my inner self did I understand how important it was for me to spend some time with myself.
And that is when I started asking myself a few questions like ‘how am I feeling today?’, ‘is there anything troubling me?’, and ‘what do I need?, just as how I would ask these questions to people I love.
Once you establish that kind of connection with your own self, I guarantee, that you will stop associating your happiness with your relationship status.
While being in a genuine romantic relationship is great, there is a special kind of wonder and exquisiteness to having a positive and loving relationship with your own self. In fact, loving yourself helps you to love others even more!
Here are a few tips for you to get started…
Tip 1: Whenever you get your salary or grab that important business deal, just spend a wee-bit of that hard earned money on yourself – doing something that gives you happiness; could be a spa or a new perfume or just anything that makes it all worth it.
Tip 2: Pledge to take good care of yourself not just because you want others to love you. You do that because you love yourself, too.
Tip 3 : Practice being a little more self-forgiving. So when you goof up(and we all do!) just tell yourself – It’s ok. Cause it really is.
Hope I’ve been able to reach out to you to just remind you of how special you already are. So, this Valentine’s Day, let’s shower some love on ourself and unapologetically indulge in self-love.
I wish all you lovely people a very Happy Valentine’s Day!